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Sometimes The Stories
Do Not Have Happy Endings
Neal Pollard
copied from TheBible.net :: Daily Bread
The news extracted from the coal mine in Upshur
County, West Virginia, was a lode of agony for families and loved
ones. Especially bittersweet was the false hope dispensed from one
who will probably go to all lengths to keep from being identified,
who told the world that twelve of thirteen men survived. When word
came that twelve of thirteen were, in fact, dead, the news of one
incredible survivor was buried in an avalanche of grief and disbelief.
Everyone was rooting for a repeat of the amazing
rescue of the nine Somerset County, Pennsylvania, coal miners who
lasted seventy-seven hours and were dramatically lifted out of the
hole before the eyes of an awe struck audience. We want all such
catastrophes and crises to end like this. The latest news from West
Virginia is a wake up call that some, even most, do not.
We can carry the same expectations in our Christian
lives. We want every struggle, problem, and dilemma to turn out
with the happy ending we imagine. We want them fixed to our specifications.
We want cheers and elations where once there were pensive nerves
and stressful anticipations. We want restless nights to give way
to pleasant dreams and then awaken refreshed the next morning. Yet,
sometimes the stories do not have happy endings.
In the church, not all stories end well. While
some who are disciplined are restored and may even thereafter serve
Christ with distinction, not every one from whom fellowship is withdrawn
comes home. Not every prodigal makes his way back to the Father's
house. Not all Christians take root and bring fruit to perfection.
Some of the most nurtured and encouraged new converts turn away
because of problems or worldly attractions (cf. Luke 8:11-15). Not
every church split leads to two churches more effectively serving
and doing more for Christ. Not every pulpit hero reaches the land
of the hoary head with his faithfulness intact. Not every mean-spirited
radical or haughty-minded liberal are clear-headed and humble enough
to renounce their extreme, divisive ways.
Neither do all stories end well in the home.
Sometimes, the unfaithful spouse does not repent and try to make
amends with the offended partner and/or children. Not every abuser
successfully reforms. Some, maybe many, slaves to addictions in
the home crumble under the weight of such and leave a wake of destruction
in their paths. Some never heal from bitterness, anger, or jealousy.
Some in marriage and the home never can demote self from first place.
So, what do you do when the story does not end
well? First, trust God. He did not cause any evil to come (cf. James
1:13-15). Yet, He will give you the strength you need to cope (Philippians
4:19). Second, increase your craving for home. In heaven, there
will be no tragedies, no emotional cave ins, no spiritual asphyxiations
(cf. Revelation 21:1-5). Third, reach out despite your personal
pain. This is not to minimize the greatness of your personal suffering,
but to remind you that such suffering may better equip you to help
the hurting who surround you on every side. Empathy is a powerful
tool. Fourth, see the trial as the gateway to the grace of Christ
(2 Corinthians 12:9) and an ultimately positive expression of the
discipline of God in the refinement of your spirit (Hebrews 12:4
ff).
How it hurts when the story does not have a happy
ending. Yet, there is the promise of God that the ultimate ending
for the faithful Christian will exceed what we imagine that joy
and happiness could be (cf. 1 Peter 1:8-9; 1 John 3:2). That's a
life line you can hold on to!
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