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Building A Sense Of "Self-Worth" in Our Children
Don Loftis

Good parents help their children develop healthy independence. The goal is for children to function and make good decisions even if parents are not present. One tool in achieving that goal is continually instilling a sense of self-worth into their lives. This is more than self-esteem–it is an inherent value of being created in the image of God. As parents, three activities will be useful.

First, children need to know how important they are to their family. Emphasis needs to be placed on their uniqueness and the role they play in the family. They need to hear, "What did we ever do before you were a part of our home?" Unconditional love will help them feel wanted, secure, and accepted.

Secondly, all children need to have a sense of control over their own bodies. We warn against sexual abuse. With the concept of good touch\bad touch. A child needs to know they have the right to say "NO" to someone who is making them uncomfortable.

They also need to know that key adults in their lives will listen to these concerns and take seriously any threats to this "safe space."

While protecting younger children from sexual abuse, sadly our culture almost promotes sexual exploitation of teens and young adults. Styles of dress, immodest by nature, are increasingly disrespectful of the person wearing them. Linda White comments, "Modesty declares that a woman's body is precious; for when something is precious, it is protected. Modesty, therefore, enhances self-respect."

Finally, parents need to have high, but realistic expectations for their children. Praise needs to be expressed both for accomplishments and effort. Guiding children to use their talents and to maximize their strengths is important. However, even in failure, it is possible to stress a child's potential for future success.

Too many children develop destructive habits because they feel defeated and unimportant. Others grow up feeling unworthy to be loved by even their mate. Every child needs to discover the immense value of both life and soul.